Reframe of Mind

Episode 36: Who is Nelly Thomas?

and why people-pleasing is bad

Andy Le Roy & Louise Poole, Reframe of Mind Hosts

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Are you a people pleaser? Maybe you’ve seen its impact in or on leadership or experienced, first-hand, how people pleasers can be drawn to toxic relationships, and are people pleasers really happy anyway?

 

Pleasing others isn’t always a bad thing, but when it becomes such a significant part of your personality, it can trigger anxiety and bring its associated trauma. So what happens when you stop that people-pleasing behaviour?

 

In this episode, we meet comedian, author, educator and broadcaster, Nelly Thomas, who helps us realise the value of reaching the zero ducks stage. And you know we’re not talking about ducks, autocorrect!

 

Nelly’s story is one of backing ourselves as she very honestly tells us about her mental health journey and how she has learned to value herself in the face of the outside world’s demands, because once we take responsibility for looking after ourselves, those unreasonable demands just become white noise.

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Reframe of Mind contains discussion around mental health that may be disturbing to some listeners.

 

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Reframe of Mind contains discussion around mental health that may be disturbing to some listeners.

 

If you are concerned about yourself or someone you know, please seek professional individual advice. 

 

Some of the main crisis lines in Australia are listed on our Mental Health Crisis Resources page, including those that operate 24/7 like Beyond Blue and Lifeline.

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Award-winning performer, comedian, author, educator and broadcaster.

Show Notes

Here’s some extra things you might not know about our guests, as well as some of the things mentioned during the episode.

Nelly Thomas

Nelly Thomas is an Australian comedian, author, educator and broadcaster whose public career received. a boost when she won the Triple J Raw Comedy competition in 2003.

Nelly uses her voice to advocate on issues including homelessness, asylum seeker rights, gender and women’s rights.  She has first-hand experience dealing with depression and the stigmas surrounding it, and is well versed in the area of neurodiversity, having raised an autistic daughter.

Nelly’s most recent kids books celebrate diversity with a dash of humour, teaching girls and boys that everyone is unique and special in their won way, and the importance of challenging stereotypes.

 

Join Wil Anderson as he reads Nelly’s book “Some Mums (Are Fat Molls)

(Language advisory)

Follow these links to Nelly’s range of books for kids:

 

 

 

 

 

 

Transcript

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Check out all the guests who appear this season:

Former Australian Diamonds Head Coach, now head of high performance and assistant coach for the London Pulse

Award-winning inspirational speaker, consulting CEO and author.

Board Director, Mentor. Mother, Entrepreneurial thinker and innovative strategist. Empowerer of women.

World-leading Australian neuroscientist in occupational therapy and stroke rehabilitation and recovery research.

Co-founder and Managing Director of Thankyou.

Australian social psychologist, currently Scientia Professor at the University of New South Wales, Sydney.

Diversity trans-relator, educator, life coach, speaker and consultant. 

Best-selling author, entrepreneur and global presenter.

Wellbeing Educator specialising in prevention of burnout and empathy fatigue.

Business expert, best-selling author and international keynote speaker on mastering the power of mindsets.

Highly-awarded cognitive neuropsychologist at the Brain and Mind Centre at the University of Sydney.

Founder and CEO of LAJOIE SKIN, qualified and experienced chemist, marketer with a passion for sustainability and the dance floor.

Internationally recognised public speaker, educator and researcher on high performance.

Experienced senior executive and board director with an international track record of leading teams to address complex challenges.

Professor of Entrepreneurship, La Trobe Business School, La Trobe University.

Inspirational speaker & performance coach turning near death into durability model of strength, self-esteem, overcoming adversity.

Highly experienced strategist, leadership champion and expert in the area of human potential.

Yorta Yorta/Ngarrindjeri man, Australian Indigenous Comic Con Director, Founder of Indiginerd popculture company.

Director of Positive Minds Australia, widely published Author of Resilience, Wellbeing, Confidence & Social Emotional Intelligence.

Associate Head of Learning and Teaching in Psychology, Director of Postgraduate Professional Training Programs in Counselling and Psychology.

Australian doctor, lawyer, scientist and disability advocate.

Pilot, mentor and motivational speaker with an inspiring story and message of resilience.

Author and coach on resilience in the face of stress, anxiety and fear created by a life changing diagnosis.

Senior Lecturer and Deputy Clinical Director with the School of Psychological Science at UWA.

Australia’s very own ‘Dr Happy‘, at the forefront of the positive psychology movement and founder of The Happiness Institute.

Ultramarathon runner, Maori Sportswoman of the Year (2008), 2 x best-selling author. 

Australian expert on mental health, Director of The Matilda Centre for Research in Mental Health and Substance Use, Principal Research Fellow at the University of Sydney.

Award-winning performer, comedian, author, educator and broadcaster.

Professor of the Department of Psychology, Director of the Music, Sound and Performance Lab at Macquarie University.

New Zealnad explorer, public speaker and best-selling author.

Queer, non-binary, Jewish writer, performer, activist and public speaker based in Naarm/ Birraranga / Melbourne.

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